3. Within every failure is opportunity
Don't be ashamed of failure. So it's you who's been screwing up, not everyone else. Welcome to the club. As Henry Ford said "failure is simply the opportunity to begin again, this time more intelligently." Failure is a misunderstood and underutilized asset. Look back on your failures and try to extract one thing you learned from each. These are keys to breaking your negative patterns. And for inspiration, consider this man's resume:
age 22: failed at business
age 23: ran for legislature and lost
age 24: failed at another business
age 25: elected to legislature
age 26: girlfriend died
age 27: had nervous breakdown
age 29: defeated for Speaker of the House
age 31: defeated for elector
age 34: defeated for Congress
age 37: elected to Congress
age 39: defeated for Congress
age 46: defeated for Senate
age 47: defeated for Vice President
age 49: defeated for Senate
age 51: elected president
The man is abraham lincoln.